tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post1283745138578152799..comments2023-10-19T13:49:42.878+02:00Comments on Embracing who we are…: Is victory always worthy?Gabriela Abalohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-41957778151057252922010-02-20T13:24:31.186+02:002010-02-20T13:24:31.186+02:00Dear TS,
Maybe what is bothering you is the fact t...Dear TS,<br />Maybe what is bothering you is the fact that you did not have any closure. You wanted to understand what has happened and instead ended up being emotionally abused. <br />That kind of situation will of course have a strong psychological impact on any person. <br />You may be right, she probably needed someone to help her to let go of all the rage and discontent hunting her, and you just happened to be there at exactly the right time for her. But, there are no accidents in life, everything happens for a reason, so try to see what was there for you - what you need to learn from that experience. Once you get your answer you will be able to move on. <br /><br />Look at the bigger picture, beyond the emotional abuse and what the community may think about you. You have a great opportunity in your hands and the power to raise over the situation and stand once again proud of who you are. Don’t think who won or lost, it all depends on how you chose to look at the situation. You are a winner you can raise stronger and wiser from this experience.<br />You need to be able to move on and find closure, facing her face to face may not be a good idea, but instead you can write a letter to her, expressing your feelings and how the situation has affected you. When writing make sure that you do it with your heart and not with your ego, be open and honest, forgive her and wish her the best. Once the letter is written, keep it somewhere safe, till the day you are ready to break it and move on.<br /><br />One day you will look at all this experience with gratitude and love.<br /><br />Keep strong and let your heart guide you.<br /><br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-83196563141406325802010-02-20T12:19:09.593+02:002010-02-20T12:19:09.593+02:00Thank you dear Sherry for such encouraging comment...Thank you dear Sherry for such encouraging comment. You just said it, "Embracing who we are" is about that, giving the chance to each of us to look at things with different glasses and appreciate the differences, with the understanding that we are "one" and "all". It is about unconditional love and the realization of the self without auto-imposed boundaries.<br /><br />loveNligth<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-4124983428750350152010-02-20T02:23:07.701+02:002010-02-20T02:23:07.701+02:00Dear Gab,
I went thru a horrible battle with some...Dear Gab,<br /><br />I went thru a horrible battle with some one recently and I ended up hearth broken crying and it eventually effected the entire family... she on the other hand felt like the winner and eventually even moved from her home letting the community know it was because of me... I regret going to her home that day… I got my self in a very difficult situacion but, in my hearth I was trying to make peace with this lady as it had been weeks that she stopped saying hello, I took the decision to stop by and see how she was doing and ask if there was anything I had done to mend what was broken between us... it turned in to a terrible one way discussion as I was so nervous and in shock that I did not even have a chance to react... after that I have been feeling terrible that I never defended my self and I have been seeing this women on my dreams my thougts and I even say her name by mistake to other people I want to get over this because I had nothing to do with this woman and I think she used me to get her ugly side out to light...<br /><br /><br />Yurs dearly,<br />TSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-20736075636600258022010-02-19T20:40:55.595+02:002010-02-19T20:40:55.595+02:00Dear Gabi,
As hard as it is to shift from duality...Dear Gabi,<br /><br />As hard as it is to shift from duality into non-duality, it is possible and I am seeing that more and more. If each one of us chooses simple opportunities to look at life with different glasses on, it will change. Your blog is helping make that shift.<br /><br />Thanks,<br />SherrySherry Bakhtianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825911744614651697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-4449164484208158652010-02-19T15:42:11.391+02:002010-02-19T15:42:11.391+02:00maybe because of all those little battles that we ...maybe because of all those little battles that we are always trying to win is that we find life hard. Life is much more that winning or loosing, so you are right, we should get beyond the idea of seeing everything as a fight.<br /><br />Thanks for reading and commenting.<br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-28076230659245103312010-02-19T15:29:01.979+02:002010-02-19T15:29:01.979+02:00"Life is hard with out people trying to win l..."Life is hard with out people trying to win little battles at work or at home. If only we can easily forget things that make us loose or win"<br /><br />ArzinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-1829989945395477592010-02-19T14:54:00.681+02:002010-02-19T14:54:00.681+02:00@Hameja,
As you well said, winning isn’t everythin...@Hameja,<br />As you well said, winning isn’t everything in life, we should be wise enough to know when it is the right time to retract so as to avoid unnecessary damages.<br /><br />@Kass,<br />I’m glad to know you are looking at the positive side of things! You are a great person with an humongous heart!<br /><br />@Isaac,<br />You said it all!<br /><br />loveNlight to all<br /><br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-912406180229601132010-02-19T08:35:11.860+02:002010-02-19T08:35:11.860+02:00It takes wisdom to realise life is a bigger gift t...It takes wisdom to realise life is a bigger gift than the prize of a battle! <br /><br />IsaacAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-13652401857619484072010-02-18T16:51:30.411+02:002010-02-18T16:51:30.411+02:00Gabi - Thank you for this great reminder. I really...Gabi - Thank you for this great reminder. I really do like the person I've become in caring for my mother. It will take awhile to feel loving toward my sisters, but it will come. I'm glad I took a big breath and just listened to them instead of exploding.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-79397521674617140142010-02-18T11:01:19.589+02:002010-02-18T11:01:19.589+02:00Garb,
You very right Garb. We feel satisfied on th...Garb,<br />You very right Garb. We feel satisfied on the surface when we defeat someone in an arguement and we satisfy our ego. But what we must know is that we have ruined the other person completely and eventually created permanent hatred. <br /><br />This is a good subject to all of us to learn to lose some fights.<br /><br />Mulomba HamejaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-46637948155094068742010-02-17T19:59:16.626+02:002010-02-17T19:59:16.626+02:00Kass, thank you so much for sharing your tribulati...Kass, thank you so much for sharing your tribulations.<br />Believe it or not, today a friend of my was telling me exactly the same thing, her grandma is still alive but her family is already splitting up her possessions. This is deeply affecting my friend and her relationship with the family.<br />To love unconditionally is one of the biggest challenges we face, as we have to leave our ego and expectations aside so as to be able to accept things as they are. We should not condition our love to others based on their behavior and our expectations– if they behave as we expect then we love them, but if they do something that we don’t approve then we don’t love them anymore. <br />We shall love every human being for what she/he freely chooses to be, whether we like it or not. Keep in mind that those that we least understand are the ones that teach us the most, as they are showing us the aspects we dislike and therefore giving us the chance to choose who we want to be.<br />We need to know evil in order to appreciate good, we need to taste selfishness, greediness and materialism to value their opposites. So, based on that understanding we should love all the different sides of people, as they are part of us – remember that we are one and all. <br />We don’t need to approve others behaviors, but we do need to respect them for who they are, then we can chose to continue our relationship with them or not. Parting apart doesn’t mean stop loving someone, all it means is that we have learnt from each other what we needed, so now we can move on with our lives.<br />I have parted ways with my closest family, because when I’m with them I become someone I don’t like, but I do still love them for who they are. I don’t expect them to change so I can be with them, as I understand that we are to follow different paths. I love them because they taught me to love myself despite others – through continuous emotional abuse they managed to put me down, convinced that I wasn’t worthy. But, today I’m where I’m because of me and because of their great teachings – maybe that was the only way for me to learn to love myself. <br />I can’t be with them, but I sent love and light to them every day. <br /><br />So, getting back to your sisters, you don’t have to like what they do, but don’t judge them based on your values, because they think they are doing the right thing – understand that they are entitled to have their own principles, whether they are right or not. Love them for who they are – which doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine, let them know you disagree with what they are doing and give them a chance to make a choice, then you can make yours.<br /><br />Be strong and let your heart guide you.<br /><br /> <br /><br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-61273977400713301492010-02-17T18:23:55.510+02:002010-02-17T18:23:55.510+02:00Gabi - You know, truthfully, I can't manage it...Gabi - You know, truthfully, I can't manage it right now. So I'm just keeping quiet and going home and screaming. My sisters are all concerned about my mother's money and her possessions and I don't understand it. She's not dead yet. One of my sisters started packing up the things she wanted and had them shipped to herself. I don't care about that. I don't want some stupid figurine, even if it is worth $700. I don't need to win. My ego isn't involved. I just need to be able to take care of my mother. I guess we have certain expectations about family and when they turn into someone we don't know it's shocking. How can you unconditionally love someone you don't even like?Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-62239007209596026172010-02-17T11:56:31.094+02:002010-02-17T11:56:31.094+02:00Mahalo dear Tag!
As you well pointed out, competi...Mahalo dear Tag!<br /><br />As you well pointed out, competing is in our monkey nature and is up to us to overcome that inbuilt need to prevail over others so as to realize that we are more than that. <br />Once we have achieved that level of consciousness then we will definitely have a wonderful world!<br /><br />loveNlight<br /><br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-55646090738374099502010-02-17T10:31:37.213+02:002010-02-17T10:31:37.213+02:00Dear Gabi, competition is built into our monkey na...Dear Gabi, competition is built into our monkey nature. We compete for resources, we compete for mates, and we also compete for the sheer joy of winning. However we can transcend that monkey nature and the urges of our egos to reach out in compassion and cooperation to build together instead of tear down. Thank you for a thought provoking post. mahalo.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00533184345345882921noreply@blogger.com