tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post8705350477728380843..comments2023-10-19T13:49:42.878+02:00Comments on Embracing who we are…: When did we become strangers?Gabriela Abalohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-37290791149905614312010-10-25T22:28:47.872+02:002010-10-25T22:28:47.872+02:00This is very close to the story of my own parents....This is very close to the story of my own parents. Kids growing up in the midst of that turmoil, especially the unspoken thoughts, tend to either marry exactly the same person as their mom or dad, or step back and analyze.<br /><br />Frighteningly real; beautifully realized. Thank you, G.<br />Amy Barlow LiberatoreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-5303214342841947172010-10-25T22:23:03.447+02:002010-10-25T22:23:03.447+02:00Thought provoking piece.Thought provoking piece.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-88450318739048675212010-10-25T16:14:15.277+02:002010-10-25T16:14:15.277+02:00The aphorism "Know Thyself" is just as t...The aphorism "Know Thyself" is just as true today as it was back in Ancient Greece. Pretending only serves to hide our true selves.<br /><br />People do change, but that also means that they can change for the good.<br /><br />An interesting Pot Luck entry, Gabi!Bubbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16927345716112968689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-171464528758131032010-10-25T08:41:35.748+02:002010-10-25T08:41:35.748+02:00It is really saddening to note that man has lost h...It is really saddening to note that man has lost his place in himself; a different he can not reconcile up till now. We became stranger the moment we lost the moment we once had. We are too preoccupied with trivial issues!! A well noted thesis,I may concludeMICHAELnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-38483741528667153862010-10-25T04:03:04.857+02:002010-10-25T04:03:04.857+02:00very sad sory for too many families...somehow the ...very sad sory for too many families...somehow the vicious circle has to be overcome so that the family can once again be one.Kathe W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06781645436343424010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-34590968939522866712010-10-25T03:47:28.422+02:002010-10-25T03:47:28.422+02:00the realities of human relationships exposed. grea...the realities of human relationships exposed. great writing. üAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-29322366498718985382010-10-25T03:32:18.269+02:002010-10-25T03:32:18.269+02:00sad tale indeed,
well written.
Thanks for sharing....sad tale indeed,<br />well written.<br />Thanks for sharing.Linda Bob Grifins Korbetis Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01546696605935159862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-1143884606710723782010-10-25T03:26:55.807+02:002010-10-25T03:26:55.807+02:00What a sad tale. It is all the more sad because o...What a sad tale. It is all the more sad because of its realism.Teresahttp://razzamadazzle.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-44332359742357614852010-10-25T03:26:35.570+02:002010-10-25T03:26:35.570+02:00What a sad tale. It is all the more sad because o...What a sad tale. It is all the more sad because of its realism.Teresahttp://razzamadazzle.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-44418860640057054732010-01-22T11:17:39.970+02:002010-01-22T11:17:39.970+02:00I always enjoy reading your comments dear Bunda, t...I always enjoy reading your comments dear Bunda, they are full of passion and deep concern. <br />People marry for different reasons, but once they are into it, they should honor that, by putting their best efforts to make it work. Finding balance in the relationship is as key as good communication and tolerance.<br />If we let the other party know what is bothering us, we are already giving a step forward towards its resolution. <br /><br />loveNlight <br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-40702608425010507512010-01-22T10:46:47.411+02:002010-01-22T10:46:47.411+02:00Reading this story reminds me of so many marriages...Reading this story reminds me of so many marriages I've seen out there. Its like when people say I do and put the ring on the stop trying, stop working on their relationships. Maybe it's cause they feel the have reached the goal and that's the end. But its not! Every relationship in our life needs to be worked on to grow but for some reason people seem to think marriage will sort its self out. No people, marriage is a relationship too! It needs you to want it to work, to put your energy behind it and to fight to keep it alive!!!! When all the passion and excitement fades and you start the family and have all the drama of children and being grown ups, its great if you have your 'friend' with you through everything that comes after you say "I do". <br />So work at making relationships in your marriages that live on during the "down" times, fight during the "hard" times and make the "up" times the best ever! <br /><br />Beautiful story Gabi and well done. And your right good communication is the key to marriage, too bad so many people don't seems to get that.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10337675852638500043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-26501231144675269282010-01-22T09:56:25.564+02:002010-01-22T09:56:25.564+02:00Marriage is that relation between man and woman in...Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal.<br />- Louis K AnspacherGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-62757427283501748892010-01-22T09:55:37.281+02:002010-01-22T09:55:37.281+02:00When balance is lost, frustration rules, then ever...When balance is lost, frustration rules, then everything else starts to go down the hill. Even the children who are getting their mother full attention are not happy, as they are witnessing how unhappy their parents are. <br />Extremes are never good.<br /><br />Thank you dear Sherry for stopping by.<br /><br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-1611182409101162542010-01-21T23:02:54.467+02:002010-01-21T23:02:54.467+02:00Dear Gabi,
I agree with Cleo, somewhere somehow w...Dear Gabi,<br /><br />I agree with Cleo, somewhere somehow women believed that their role as mothers is more important than their role as wife or friend or lover. Because of this belief many of us forget why we got married in the first place. Part of this could be due to over-involvement as parents in our children's lives. My parents were not as involved as I am and I think this itself shifts the balance towards motherhood.<br />Whatever the cause, I hope no one forgets why they got married and finds a way to bring that reason into the present moment no matter what is going on with the kids.<br /><br />Thanks for a lovely post,<br />SherrySherry Bakhtianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825911744614651697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-6107484815343328782010-01-21T16:29:56.091+02:002010-01-21T16:29:56.091+02:00So true dear Cleo, it is all is about finding the ...So true dear Cleo, it is all is about finding the right balance, between taking care of ourselves, the children and keeping the romance alive in our marriage. It sounds as too much work, but actually it is not, we do see many couples managing to do so, and living happily ever after (I’m not talking about the ones described on children’s books ;-) I’m referring to real cases).<br />When things start to go downhill in any relationship each party involve needs to analyze the causes of the troubles and accept the fact that they are also part of it. If they start pointing fingers at each other instead of accepting their responsibility then things will definitely keep going down. Good relationships require effective communication, accepting responsibilities, positive attitude and unconditional love.<br /> <br /><br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-21297998412486341662010-01-21T15:38:12.598+02:002010-01-21T15:38:12.598+02:00What you have just written is a real life situatio...What you have just written is a real life situation. We women tend to forget exactly what we are and what we are supposed to be most of the times because we tend to do things to extremes such that we deny ourselves even that time to love and to be loved. For example when we get into marriage and have children the whole focus will be on childred and we even forget our husbands, forget our smartness i.e. our hair, nails and all those small small things which we used to do. That is why sometimes you find that husbands wonder if we were the same persons they met at first. All the spark just goes off such that our men tend to look elsewhere for it. Then trouble begins. Please let us balance ourselves, we know we care a lot but we also need to look after ourselves and our affairs.<br />CleoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-23056370107708787132010-01-21T09:08:47.112+02:002010-01-21T09:08:47.112+02:00Thank you dear Kass. So true that marriage goes th...Thank you dear Kass. So true that marriage goes through ups and downs and that during the hard times the relationship is really tested. Some will walk away from the relationship while others will chose to look for solutions. The key is good communication and unconditional love.<br /><br />loveNlight<br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-87224703816880911352010-01-20T23:01:59.354+02:002010-01-20T23:01:59.354+02:00This is a painfully accurate story. It has at its ...This is a painfully accurate story. It has at its core, the everydayness that can destroy or enhance relationships. I love what Tag said. I don't think I can improve or elaborate beyond that. Well done to the both of you.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-46812966205952633232010-01-20T19:12:28.764+02:002010-01-20T19:12:28.764+02:00@Edu, good communication is a key factor in any he...@Edu, good communication is a key factor in any healthy relationship. Relationships also need to be nourished to keep them alive, if we change our priorities then we may lose something on the way. As I read the other day: “Love never dies by natural causes. It dies because we don't replenish its cup”<br /><br />@Q. not all married couple have the type of relationship I described on my short story. So, do look for love and as you said, choose wisely and work on keeping the relationship alive.<br /><br />@Tag: Welcome to the blog. Romance must be nurtured, despite the children and the day to day hassles of marriage and parental life, we should never forget the reason we married: to share a life for the good and the bad and beyond all: love<br /><br />loveNlight<br /><br />GabiGabriela Abalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316879938383542026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-26096648650709351702010-01-20T17:04:31.987+02:002010-01-20T17:04:31.987+02:00There comes a time in a marriage when it begins to...There comes a time in a marriage when it begins to move back up hill, when the children are not as dependent as they have been, when love once again blossoms. It is during that down time, that uncertainty that we may lose hope and turn to find our happiness elsewhere. That is when the romance ends, if we allow it. This is very personal Gabi, Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00533184345345882921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-27257834885055787712010-01-20T14:49:57.633+02:002010-01-20T14:49:57.633+02:00muy bueno...
yo que estoy pensando en si me quier...muy bueno...<br /><br />yo que estoy pensando en si me quiero casar... en si quiero tener hijos... me hacen bien estos escritos que te confrontan con la realidad de tanta gente para plantearme que si algun día decido tener pareja para largo tiempo lo debo hacer bien y debo esforzarme para no llegar al tedio y al "horror" que describe este último blog tuyo.<br /><br />gracias por compartirlo conmigo.<br /><br /><br />Q.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1974114391557983994.post-86991121363793071092010-01-20T10:51:56.963+02:002010-01-20T10:51:56.963+02:00This is indeed a very moving story that touches at...This is indeed a very moving story that touches at the very core of the goings on back in our families. I believe though that the best way forward is to communicate. Accusations and counter accusations will never make a family the single unit it ought to be, but talking and listening to a greater extend would.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01916221851725325082noreply@blogger.com